Monday, October 22, 2012

A tragic night.

With tears streaming I write this. Friday night our couples class at church had a progressive dinner party. When we got to the church to meet we realized we were taking the bus.  "Should we drive the van babe in case Reece needs us?" my husband answered, "If you want to." "Nah. I guess not.."

We all loaded the bus. Went to the first house and I tried to eat a salad, but with my tooth I didn't eat much. I chatted about how nervous I was to get my tooth pulled Saturday. We all gathered on the bus after the first stop and headed to the next.  Some of our friends were late so they met us at the first house. Then they all decided to car pool in my friends Honda. There was 5 of them. Karen's husband Enrique insisted Claudia sit in the front since she was 28 weeks pregnant.  So Steven, Claudia's husband, Oliver (who's wife was home sick) and Enrique all sat in the back seat.

Supposedly the guys were distracted by a frog. They caught the frog, therefore they were a minuet behind the bus.  As they drove and crossed through a green light, an SUV ran a red light going very fast and T-Boned Karen's Honda. The honda flipped a couple times and landed upside down in a small ditch.  I'm told Karen was able to get free from the car but no one else could. Enrique was unresponsive right away.

They all suffered serious injuries except for Karen.  They were all rush to the hospital right away.

Enrique suffered the worst of the injuries.  The doctors were not hopeful that he would make it.  He needed several surgeries, and had sever injuries.  We all gathered at the hospital and prayed over the weekend.  Many people from our church were there. Bro. Ruhl and his wife were there the majority of the time.

 The doctors were always careful not to give much hope to Karen, but we did see some specific prayers answered.  We all really thought he was going to make it.
Karen asked our Sunday School teacher Bro. Ruhl, "Tell all the wives to hug their husbands".  And last night I brought Karen some food and she told me, "I just wish he would open his eyes. I want to see his eyes."

This morning I received a call, that Enrique had gone home to be with Jesus.  We were all very shocked and are broken hearted. We really thought the Lord was answering our prayers.  We know He had a different plan. And it doesn't make sense to us, but we can Trust Him. Prov 3:5

Please pray for his sweet wife Karen, that God would shower His grace and peace upon her.

Claudia had the baby early Sat morning. Baby Jackie is in NICU and doing well.  Oliver, Steven and Claudia all had sever injuries and have a very long road ahead.  Injuries included, crushed ribs, broken jaw, lacerated organs, several broken bones, ect.

I am trying to not be too specific since this is all new information for a lot of people and I certainly don't want any family to find out via the internet about anything. It is certainly not my place to paint the picture of the evening, but I do ask for people to be praying for all our friends in the hospital, the baby, and especially for Karen.

I know many of you are already praying and have asked for updates, and rather than tell separate people several times I wanted to write it once.

I am so very thankful that HEAVEN IS REAL.  Enrique is with our Savior. If you were in a terrible accident, would you wake up in heaven? The bible says God wants you to be sure. "These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may KNOW that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God." 1 John 5:13
"We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord." 2 Corinthians 5:8 
Enrique was with us one minuet, laughing, joking, being a gentleman like he always is. Then, he wasn't. Oh how life can change in an instant.  
 "Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth." Proverbs 27:1 
If you haven't trusted Christ as your Savior....PLEASE DO!!! I beg you! You never know when your last chance is. The bible is real, it's true, it's accurate. Heaven is real, hell is real, Satan is real, GOD IS REAL.  Whether someone believes in heaven and hell doesn't make it not REAL.  You can say, "I don't believe in a million dollars. Ive never seen it, so I don't believe it."  Doesn't make it not real! 
"For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him shoul not perish, but have EVERLASTING LIFE." John 3:16 

If you've never asked Jesus to be your Savior, I pray you would! Salvation is not anything we do, but what Jesus has already done and us accepting that gift.  Pray and ask God to forgive you of your sins, then tell him you believe and accept what He did for you on the cross! God's word is true. 
 "That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved." Romans 10:9 
Oh Lord Jesus, please comfort Karen, my sweet friend. Please overwhelm her with your comfort and grace. Please Jesus I pray she will be filled with your spirit. I pray you would keep her from asking why, and from saying, "if only...", like I continue to do. I pray you would be Glorified Lord Jesus. Please give Karen peace and a comfort that lasts forever.  Thank you for my husband. Thank you for the friendship we developed with the Escobar's. Please God heal Karen's broken heart. In Jesus name I pray. Amen. 

Thursday, October 18, 2012

A very difficult last couple of months....

"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher thant the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts your thoughts." Isaiah 55:8-9

My absence has been do to an on going roller coaster of trials.  The worst is the present trial.  Not only did we get an evil stomach flu, then we got our car broken into, then we got another evil stomach flu, then we got several unexpected bills at once, then we had a huge trial with our house (needed fixing ASAP for health), then my TMJ flared up so sever.  Last Friday night I went to urgent care.  Was given Vicodin and muscle relaxers. Didn't help.  Fast forward (in a huge amount of pain all weekend) Monday I go to a Ear Nose and Throat Doctor at Kaiser and he orders an MRI.  That day I also went to a Chiropractor, $125. 

Tuesday I woke up to the roof of my mouth swollen and puss coming out.  Urgent care again. Two doctors later I had it numbed and sliced open to drain it out.  Then he said to see a dentist. Depressed and discouraged.

Wednesday I saw a dentist.  Yup. Infected back upper molar.  REally bad.  Oh and two big cavities on bottom according to him. I am pretty much devastated now. Not only did I have TMJ that make opening my mouth wide almost impossible, I need a root canal or a tooth pulled.  Great.

Today, I go to a dentist from my church and pay out of pocket for a second opinion.  Not only do I need 1 pulled.....1 need 2 pulled and 1 root canal and 1 filling!!!!!!!! Which really means 3 pulled and one implant. Or no implant because they are $$$. I am pretty much unwilling to do a root canal.

 Depressed doesn't even begin to describe how I feel.  Now, I know, it could be a lot worse, but I HATE the dentist. I have TMJ.  I don't understand why I have all these issues? I brush good, eat good for the most part, floss {ok not so much, but every now and then}.  I really think it is pregnancy and breast feeding causing bad teeth.  I think I now only want one more kid. A girl please Lord. Then we are done.  Maybe.

Did I mention that this is only the right side of my mouth?? Yeah. Who knows what the left side is like. I just got 12 teeth filled 18 months ago.......WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON. Seriously. 

Something isn't right.  If this keeps happening I will have no teeth!

I am on antibiotics, and I am taking immunity boosting supplements.  I am FURIOUS and on a MISSION to heal these cavities.  I know I know. "You can't heal cavities naturally." Well there is only one way to find out!!!! Tomorrow I am starting a semi juice fast.  Allowing organic meat and raw milk, cream. 

A week from today I have an appointment with the oral surgeon because, yeah I don't want to be awake for 3 teeth pulled. They are going to be doing a full set of x-rays.  I am PRAYING with all my heart that God will help me heal these cavities. And if not, well than He has a reason.  I know I need one pulled regardless.  One is dead.  But the other 3 maybe I can save. 

PLEASE PRAY for me. Pray the infection doesn't spread. I need His grace.  In my little pity party today I came across the above verse, twice today. Once in an email from church, the other in my bible app.  It was like God told me directly, "My ways are higher than your ways". Maybe this will heal my TMJ. Maybe it's just drawing me closer to Him. But I have to thank God for all these trials, because for some reason, He choose ME to work on.  He might do something through me, and is molding me to be what He needs me to be. 

Love, The Sad Curvy Housewife

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

How to have a good weigh in

Not all weigh ins are good. Duh. You win some and you lose some.  I had a streak for a while of good weigh ins, then they slowed down. I did some things that helped, then stopped and my weigh ins showed. Here's what helps:

• The last 3 nights before a weigh in I didn't eat after 6:30pm. Just water or tea.

• I drink a lot of water 2 days prior to the weigh in, and I don't eat hardly any processed foods packed with sodium.

• I DON'T work out the day before the weigh in. This makes me retain water like a camel.

• Make sure I breastfeed before I weigh in! Um yeah! That can equal like half a pound!

• Salad for dinner the night before.

• I never weigh in right when I wake up...ever. I wait at least an hour.

• Make sure you wear the same cloths or no clothes at all! Don't weigh in naked one week, then wear shoes and all your clothes the next! 

• I don't eat until after I weigh in, just drink coffee.

• Of COURSE this is on top of eating clean, logging my food and exercising. 

You are probably thinking..."yeah right, those things don't help. If you didn't lose weight you didn't lose weight." Well let me tell you, they DO help.  And if you see a good weigh in, you are motivated to keep going.

Saturday, October 6, 2012

Catch up

Last weeks weigh in that I never blogged about: 186.7
Today: 184.7 {my official weigh in on MFP will be tomorrow} I gave myself a week off logging. It was a nice break.  I am sick with the stomach flu....AGAIN!!!! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT.  This is an EVIL virus.  Reece started throwing up the other day.  I prayed it was just teething. Then Cody threw up and Shane complained of his stomach hurting and last was NOT pretty in my bathroom. I got super sick and it was awful. I was getting angry like, How can I have it again?? But there must be two different ones going around right now. ;(

 Anyways, besides that here is a quick update from the last two weeks!!

-Sister in laws wedding See Pic! She bought us all those Juicy sweats to wear while getting ready. Fun :) I am the blond next to the bride on the left (looking at the photo). 4 of those girlies are my husbands sisters.

-I read Dave Ramsey's book "Total Money Makeover"  in one day. Oh MY. Life=CHANGED! Seriously amazing book. We are now doing this program and are still on baby step $1,000 emergency fund.  I am so impatient. I want to save up for a house NOW.  It's my dream to buy a home and live there for the rest of our lives.  I want to see this happen,,,,tomorrow. ha. But we have to save emergency fund, then pay off debt, then save more emergency fund, THEN save for a home. 

-Puppies!!! oh my life is busy with 3 boys and 11 puppies!!!!! Trying my hardest to sell them all. Aren't they stinkin cute!!!!
-Reece is majorly teething. Poor guy.
-Photography....did a friend from high schools family photos last weekend and they are beautiful! Also finished up a wedding and a newborn shoot. 
You know me, the maniac.  Well I am all crazy about the Dave Ramsey thing, so I get distracted from important things like healthy food.  I hate that. Back at it now.
-I miss church. Big time. Tomorrow will be the 3rd or 4th sunday I've missed Sunday school. Between sickness and being out of town. I miss it!

Ok, tootles.

Love, The Curvy Housewife