Surgery

I saw my OB today and the Surgeon. My OB really thinks I should have the surgery, and asap. He said 5 months is a long time to remain so sick. He also assured me the baby would be fine, and he has at least 1 patient a month have surgery and both mom and baby are fine. The longer I wait the more complicated the surgery becomes. Right now my uterus is still low enough it's not in the way at all. But in a couple months they would have to move it over during surgery. But say I had the surgery at 30 weeks, and it caused labor (which is the risk), the baby has a better chance to survive, where as if I went into labor at 16 weeks, well, the only hope would be for the drugs they could give me to try to stop the labor. BUT both said that is SO rare to happen, and the surgeon in 20 years has never had a pregnant women miscarry from the surgery. I am past the vital stage in the first trimester, and am at a good time to do it if I do.

I could tell the surgeon was for it, but he wanted to say something but didn't. So I asked him, "What do YOU think I should do?" He said, "Well, if you can gain weight [which I haven't I am down still] and the baby is growing, and you can tolerate the pain, I would wait. Although, on the other hand, it's a risk not to get it out. I can't tell the future, so I can't really say what to do. Dr. Chambers thinks you should and I trust him, and you and the baby will be fine." Hmm not really a clear answer, but all I got was.."if you can wait...."
So I think...."Can I wait? Should I wait? This week has been better, not perfect but better than last week. But then again, I never know when an attack is coming, and the pain is so bad. Lord, what do you want me to do??" About that moment ( I was in the store) I started to get the pain. I had to leave my cart (again) and run to find the bathroom because I felt I was going to be sick. Then I thought, "Okay Lord, don't remind me again please...Thank you!"
On one hand it seems risky to do the surgery because there is a slight small, tiny chance it could put me into labor. Which has never happened to the surgeon who will be doing it (although it could). And I think... I should NOT risk my baby's life at all!! How could I even think it?
But on the other hand, if I leave it, there is the same slight small chance something like, a stone could move into the duct causing an infection, and pancreatitus which would be very bad for me and baby.
So, really what is likely to happen is, I leave it in, and I am super sick for 5 more months, along with baby struggling to get all the nutrients it needs. I know there is a chance I could feel better soon, but the doctor said when the baby gets bigger it's kicking around, aggravates the gallbladder, I am very uncomfortable, more pain,...ect.
Or, I get it out, baby is fine, mom has some pain for a few days after, but then, all is well with the pregnancy and mom can eat more than just plain pasta and fruit and baby can grow and we are both happy. I have the baby, and don't have to worry about having surgery while taking care of a newborn.
But there is the what if???? factor. I am praying for wisdom and peace. What do you think???

Love, The Curvy Housewife

Faido

Faido in Japanese means "to fight". In Japanese "to fight" or Faido, means to fight against yourself, the part of you that prevents you from doing your best. - Sally Edwards, Triathlons for Women.
I read that while waiting for Cody's surgery to be over. At first I thought, "how cheesy". Then I began to think about it and that is something I often have, and need to do! Fight against myself to be strong and not cry while Cody is getting operated on, fight and go running, fight and go to the gym, and fight to eat right!
Cody's surgery was a long 4+ hours. The doctor told me there was quit a bit more work that needed to be done than he thought, but he is very happy with the out come and really thinks he won't need a second surgery. Cody is doing very well. Playing with his toys, being happy, wants to go outside! But he does have quit a bit of pain when the pain medicine wear off. His throat is also very sore from having a tube down his throat for 4 hours.
I was doing really well [considering I was by myself], until they took him and I could no longer be by his side. I lost it a bit. Even though his surgery was not on a major organ like his heart, or kidney's, anything can happen in there from anesthesia, the epidural he needed, or a malfunction in the surgery. My Sunday school teacher came with another pastor from church and prayed over Cody then waited with me the 4 hours. It was a blessing.
Cody was such a trooper. I thank God for such a sweet son. He couldn't eat or drink anything before the surgery, so while waiting for 3 hours before he went in, you could imagine a hungry and thirsty 18 month old. But he was really good. They gave him "happy meds" 15 mins before he went back and he got so funny! He was laughing and slurring his words. He really seemed drunk...:-D
After the surgery it took him a while to wake up. Once he woke, had some pedialite and nursed, we were able to go home.
Yesterday the boys and Davey were sleeping so I sneaked off and went to Coaches 8:30 am cycle class. It was H A R D. Let me tell you. I am not missing 2+ weeks again! Felt really good though to sweat so much. I rode for 70 minuets, and counted it as 10 miles in my challenge.
Last night I wanted to run, and Davey didn't, so I went alone. 10K is on Saturday! I wanted to run 5 miles, and I ran exactly that! I felt good, my legs hurt some, but my asthma was no problem, and it was great. It took me 1 hour 11 minuets. Pretty slow, but I didn't stop running. I started saying Faido in my head because I really had to pee when I had about 1.6 miles left to go. ;)
When I was almost done, this guy passed me on his bike, and said "Hi". I kept going, then heard his bike approaching me. He started asking me how old I was, my name, how I was doing, ect then asked me if I had a boyfriend! Ha. When I told him I was married he apologized and turned around, and actually fell off his bike while turning around. LOL I use to get hit on a lot before I got fat, but it's been years. Even though a very creepy experience, nice to know I look pretty good, in the dark! Haha.
Last night we went to Chili's, and I got Margarita Grilled Chicken, delicous and healthy. It was a very nice family night.
I feel ready for the 10K on Saturday. I want to run 6 miles on Monday, than taper... I'll run 2-3 on Tuesday, than take Thursday and Friday off. I am S O R E today.
I am litterally amazed, that me, ME!? can run 5 miles with out stopping. I honestly never thought I could. It wasn't that long ago I ran 1.67 miles, remember?? wow. I thank God for giving me this gift. Out of all 3 sports right now, I am enjoying the running the most. I just love pushing myself and seeing what I can do, amazed that I C A N.