I saw my OB today and the Surgeon. My OB really thinks I should have the surgery, and asap. He said 5 months is a long time to remain so sick. He also assured me the baby would be fine, and he has at least 1 patient a month have surgery and both mom and baby are fine. The longer I wait the more complicated the surgery becomes. Right now my uterus is still low enough it's not in the way at all. But in a couple months they would have to move it over during surgery. But say I had the surgery at 30 weeks, and it caused labor (which is the risk), the baby has a better chance to survive, where as if I went into labor at 16 weeks, well, the only hope would be for the drugs they could give me to try to stop the labor. BUT both said that is SO rare to happen, and the surgeon in 20 years has never had a pregnant women miscarry from the surgery. I am past the vital stage in the first trimester, and am at a good time to do it if I do.
I could tell the surgeon was for it, but he wanted to say something but didn't. So I asked him, "What do YOU think I should do?" He said, "Well, if you can gain weight [which I haven't I am down still] and the baby is growing, and you can tolerate the pain, I would wait. Although, on the other hand, it's a risk not to get it out. I can't tell the future, so I can't really say what to do. Dr. Chambers thinks you should and I trust him, and you and the baby will be fine." Hmm not really a clear answer, but all I got was.."if you can wait...."
So I think...."Can I wait? Should I wait? This week has been better, not perfect but better than last week. But then again, I never know when an attack is coming, and the pain is so bad. Lord, what do you want me to do??" About that moment ( I was in the store) I started to get the pain. I had to leave my cart (again) and run to find the bathroom because I felt I was going to be sick. Then I thought, "Okay Lord, don't remind me again please...Thank you!"
On one hand it seems risky to do the surgery because there is a slight small, tiny chance it could put me into labor. Which has never happened to the surgeon who will be doing it (although it could). And I think... I should NOT risk my baby's life at all!! How could I even think it?
But on the other hand, if I leave it, there is the same slight small chance something like, a stone could move into the duct causing an infection, and pancreatitus which would be very bad for me and baby.
So, really what is likely to happen is, I leave it in, and I am super sick for 5 more months, along with baby struggling to get all the nutrients it needs. I know there is a chance I could feel better soon, but the doctor said when the baby gets bigger it's kicking around, aggravates the gallbladder, I am very uncomfortable, more pain,...ect.
Or, I get it out, baby is fine, mom has some pain for a few days after, but then, all is well with the pregnancy and mom can eat more than just plain pasta and fruit and baby can grow and we are both happy. I have the baby, and don't have to worry about having surgery while taking care of a newborn.
But there is the what if???? factor. I am praying for wisdom and peace. What do you think???
Love, The Curvy Housewife
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Sunday, June 12, 2011
Baby Bump
It's been a while since I uploaded a pic. This was today :)
Sorry so blurry and small :/
I would also please like suggestions for baby names for boys and girls :)
Love, The Curvy Housewife
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Stoned.
I apologize in advance for this post being a whine fest.
Ultrasound showed LOTS of BIG gallstones. He said, pain will continue as long as I have my gallbladder, stones are too big to dissolve, and when my gallbladder contracts [which is every time I eat] the stones make it impossible for it to work. AKA- pain.
I did some research online and I read a lot of women have them, and are going through the same thing as me. They are all just hoping to get to 32 weeks so they know their baby will be okay. Because if we decide to do surgery while pregnant, it has to be during the 2nd trimester. But if we try to wait until after pregnancy and something happens in the 3rd trimester and they have to do surgery, it could cause pre-term labor and a baby only has %90 chance to live at birth of 32 weeks, so any less than that is dangerous.
I really need to just rely on God. He can heal me, and keep my baby safe. I see OBGYN Wednesday, and the surgeon that day, so hopefully we will have a plan after that. I would lie if I said I wasn't scared. I am not feeling well even now, and I still have 5 more months to go.
PS Web said gallstones get worse in 3rd trimester.
Would really appreciate prayer for me and baby.
PSS I was able to see my little blessing on the ultrasound, doing well growing and strong. Me? Not so much. As long as the baby is healthy.
Love, The Curvy Housewife
Ultrasound showed LOTS of BIG gallstones. He said, pain will continue as long as I have my gallbladder, stones are too big to dissolve, and when my gallbladder contracts [which is every time I eat] the stones make it impossible for it to work. AKA- pain.
I did some research online and I read a lot of women have them, and are going through the same thing as me. They are all just hoping to get to 32 weeks so they know their baby will be okay. Because if we decide to do surgery while pregnant, it has to be during the 2nd trimester. But if we try to wait until after pregnancy and something happens in the 3rd trimester and they have to do surgery, it could cause pre-term labor and a baby only has %90 chance to live at birth of 32 weeks, so any less than that is dangerous.
I really need to just rely on God. He can heal me, and keep my baby safe. I see OBGYN Wednesday, and the surgeon that day, so hopefully we will have a plan after that. I would lie if I said I wasn't scared. I am not feeling well even now, and I still have 5 more months to go.
PS Web said gallstones get worse in 3rd trimester.
Would really appreciate prayer for me and baby.
PSS I was able to see my little blessing on the ultrasound, doing well growing and strong. Me? Not so much. As long as the baby is healthy.
Love, The Curvy Housewife
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Weighing In
188 the last two days in a row. You have to understand, that at 14 weeks pregnant, it is so out of the norm for me to be losing weight. Usually by now I would for sure be up at least 7-10 pounds. My pregnancy book says you should gain a pound a week by now and for the rest of your pregnancy. I am not complaining, but, I rather control my weight with will power than with health issues.
I saw a surgeon today about my gallbladder. He told me to eat very plain, bland foods, and hang in there. Thanks buddy, that's a big help. He said they can and will do surgery on me if the pain keeps happening. Surgery has to be done in the 2nd trimester (which I am as of today! yay!). I really don't want it. The Priolsac seems to be helping a little (sometimes). So if I can I will tough it out for my sweet baby. I have an ultra sound on my gallbladder tomorrow to make it an official diagnoses, even though the ER did an ultrasound and found stones. But he said there is a chance it could look really good and maybe the pain is unrelated to the gallstones. My favorite thing he said, "You know....pregnant women get all kinds of belly aches." OH?? Like morning sickness? yeah I had that, it's not that. Like heart burn? Nope not that...constipation? NOT....and does a normal "Belly ache" make you almost pass out from the pain?? I don't think so mister. So since you have never been pregnant, let's not suggest you know the pain I feel. Um kay?? Thanks.
I'll update tomorrow after the appointment. Love you all for praying and thinking of me!!
Love, The Curvy Housewife
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Another trip to the ER
Yup. Saturday was fun. Super sick every day this week with what I think is the gallstones. For your information: the ER is pretty useless. I lay in the room for 4 hours with out any answers then they say, "Yeah we are gonna give you meds for an ulcer." UM excuse me what about my gallstones? Then the doctor says, "Well we don't want to do surgery until it's an emergency situation, like when the pain is so bad you can't take it." Okay sir....I am in the
E M E R G E N C Y room for a reason. My husband says, "How much MORE pain do you want her to be in??!!!!! she has attacks DAILY!!!" He was mad.
Bottom line.....They can't/don't want to do anything about it until the baby is born. They could take it out and not risk the baby, but they rather not. I am seeing my OBGYN next week who will have me see a surgeon who will hopefully have some answers about how bad my gallbladder is. BUT in the mean time, I am trying these meds and HOPE they help prevent the pain. They didn't this morning, but I will keep trying.
They think I could have an ulcer/acid reflux as well because I get sick even though I eat no fat. I am no doctor, but perhaps could it be that the pregnancy is making the stones worse?? Especially since gallstones are very common in pregnant women?? By the way, gallstones are from the devil. They are the worst pain I have ever had. I have had two babies, and two miscarriages. Yes, worse than all that. And to not be able to eat the food I want/need to eat... is awful. AWFUL!! I crave Monterey Jack cheese with salt (I could eat the whole block). Just a little chocolate? A small cookie? A peanut butter and jelly sandwich... please? okay, A tuna sandwich. Nope, NO, and no way. It's so sad.
A lady in our church watched our boys this time at our house and she told me she told her husband, "Honey..I looked in her cabinets and in her fridge....she doesn't have ANY bad food!! I mean none!!" haha. I know, that as soon as anyone hears gallbladder, they must assume it's because of my diet. It's not. I am watching my fat like a bear watches a fish.
All I can say is, this baby must be a girl, and she is gonna be trouble. This is the hardest pregnancy I have had. Not only the morning sickness, super fatigue, constipation, gallstones, acid reflux(?), but my legs are ACHY , restless, and just plain hurt. A plus though? I must be losing fat because Davey commented on how I look thin in my shoulders and back. I better be. Can't have any chocolate. Pshhhh.
This baby better be an angle when it's born.
Love, The Curvy Housewife
E M E R G E N C Y room for a reason. My husband says, "How much MORE pain do you want her to be in??!!!!! she has attacks DAILY!!!" He was mad.
Bottom line.....They can't/don't want to do anything about it until the baby is born. They could take it out and not risk the baby, but they rather not. I am seeing my OBGYN next week who will have me see a surgeon who will hopefully have some answers about how bad my gallbladder is. BUT in the mean time, I am trying these meds and HOPE they help prevent the pain. They didn't this morning, but I will keep trying.
They think I could have an ulcer/acid reflux as well because I get sick even though I eat no fat. I am no doctor, but perhaps could it be that the pregnancy is making the stones worse?? Especially since gallstones are very common in pregnant women?? By the way, gallstones are from the devil. They are the worst pain I have ever had. I have had two babies, and two miscarriages. Yes, worse than all that. And to not be able to eat the food I want/need to eat... is awful. AWFUL!! I crave Monterey Jack cheese with salt (I could eat the whole block). Just a little chocolate? A small cookie? A peanut butter and jelly sandwich... please? okay, A tuna sandwich. Nope, NO, and no way. It's so sad.
A lady in our church watched our boys this time at our house and she told me she told her husband, "Honey..I looked in her cabinets and in her fridge....she doesn't have ANY bad food!! I mean none!!" haha. I know, that as soon as anyone hears gallbladder, they must assume it's because of my diet. It's not. I am watching my fat like a bear watches a fish.
All I can say is, this baby must be a girl, and she is gonna be trouble. This is the hardest pregnancy I have had. Not only the morning sickness, super fatigue, constipation, gallstones, acid reflux(?), but my legs are ACHY , restless, and just plain hurt. A plus though? I must be losing fat because Davey commented on how I look thin in my shoulders and back. I better be. Can't have any chocolate. Pshhhh.
This baby better be an angle when it's born.
Love, The Curvy Housewife
Friday, June 3, 2011
Moving, excuses & schedule
This morning I had another horrible gallbladder attack. It was one of the worst, because it persisted. My neighbor had to come over and watch my boys for about an hour. Sheesh. I called my doc and he wants me to make an appointment with a surgeon. He said the attacks can be more harmful to the baby than the surgery would be. Yikes.
I do watch what I eat, really really I do. Last night we went out, and I got a salad, with "fat free" ranch (but do you ever really know eating out?) two small pieces of pizza, which I took off all toppings, even the cheese, and plain pasta. Oh and a bite of the boys desert. :/ It must have been all that made me so sick this morning. Even that you wouldn't think would have a lot of fat? I hate that I can't go out with out getting sick. Anyways....
After several hours today of just resting, I was so sick of feeling sick, and tired, and no energy at all, that I decided to do a short work out video. Denise Austin's Fit & Firm pregnancy video. It was a little easy so I added some squats and arm rolls. I MOVED for a total of 20 minuets. I am an "all or nothing" gal. I make excuses to why I don't work out these days. And some are legit, but here are most of them:
It's too hot.
The Greenway (walking path) is too far.
I have no energy.
There are snakes outside.
There are ticks outside.
I don't have a gym pass, and even if I did it's too far.
I feel like I am going to throw up.
I am too busy.
ect ect ect.
Getting down to it though.... if I can't have an amazing work out and run 3+ miles, bike 10+ or swim, I don't think it's worth it. I am realizing... that's not true!! I can do 20 mins at home, or walk 1 mile. There is nothing wrong with that. It would probably help me feel better too.
I am looking into getting a gym membership. It would really help me a lot to have a schedule and a routine again. I am a broken record these days, up's and down's. Sorry!! OOp I actually just called this gym I've had my eyes on, free childcare, lots of classes, and prices starting at $24..so you know it could go up but, that's not too bad. Only thing...No pool :( I'll have to drive to Chattanooga branch if I want to swim. Something I am excited about that they have is...rock climbing!! Sounds fun!!
Here is a sample schedule I hope to be able to follow. I know you are so interested.
Days when we have the ranch boys 3 days a week (not Sundays)-
Wake up at 7:00 am, read bible, eat breakfast, get boys ready.
8:30 am leave for gym.
9:00-10:15 am work out
9:30 am Head home
10:00 am shower get dressed, snack
11:00 am make ranch lunch
1:00 pm office work
3:00 pm home
1-2 Days off work-
Wake up at 8:30 am Bible, boys, breakfast
10:00 am leave for gym
10:30-12:00 pm work out
12:15 pm Any running around, have snacks with us
1:00 pm Home, lunch, boys nap
Other days..REST.
Love, The Curvy Housewife
I do watch what I eat, really really I do. Last night we went out, and I got a salad, with "fat free" ranch (but do you ever really know eating out?) two small pieces of pizza, which I took off all toppings, even the cheese, and plain pasta. Oh and a bite of the boys desert. :/ It must have been all that made me so sick this morning. Even that you wouldn't think would have a lot of fat? I hate that I can't go out with out getting sick. Anyways....
After several hours today of just resting, I was so sick of feeling sick, and tired, and no energy at all, that I decided to do a short work out video. Denise Austin's Fit & Firm pregnancy video. It was a little easy so I added some squats and arm rolls. I MOVED for a total of 20 minuets. I am an "all or nothing" gal. I make excuses to why I don't work out these days. And some are legit, but here are most of them:
It's too hot.
The Greenway (walking path) is too far.
I have no energy.
There are snakes outside.
There are ticks outside.
I don't have a gym pass, and even if I did it's too far.
I feel like I am going to throw up.
I am too busy.
ect ect ect.
Getting down to it though.... if I can't have an amazing work out and run 3+ miles, bike 10+ or swim, I don't think it's worth it. I am realizing... that's not true!! I can do 20 mins at home, or walk 1 mile. There is nothing wrong with that. It would probably help me feel better too.
I am looking into getting a gym membership. It would really help me a lot to have a schedule and a routine again. I am a broken record these days, up's and down's. Sorry!! OOp I actually just called this gym I've had my eyes on, free childcare, lots of classes, and prices starting at $24..so you know it could go up but, that's not too bad. Only thing...No pool :( I'll have to drive to Chattanooga branch if I want to swim. Something I am excited about that they have is...rock climbing!! Sounds fun!!
Here is a sample schedule I hope to be able to follow. I know you are so interested.
Days when we have the ranch boys 3 days a week (not Sundays)-
Wake up at 7:00 am, read bible, eat breakfast, get boys ready.
8:30 am leave for gym.
9:00-10:15 am work out
9:30 am Head home
10:00 am shower get dressed, snack
11:00 am make ranch lunch
1:00 pm office work
3:00 pm home
1-2 Days off work-
Wake up at 8:30 am Bible, boys, breakfast
10:00 am leave for gym
10:30-12:00 pm work out
12:15 pm Any running around, have snacks with us
1:00 pm Home, lunch, boys nap
Other days..REST.
Love, The Curvy Housewife
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
Weighing In
191 this morning. I don't know exactly what I weighed when I found out I was pregnant. I think it was around 190....?? So, I am doing really well. 13 weeks today. Yesterday(12 weeks 6 days), in my last pregnancy, is when I mis-carried. I was happy to wake up this morning and remember I have a healthy baby growing inside me.
I got very sick this morning though. I think it was my gallstones again. I have been watching my fat, but last night I had a little Tortellini and garlic bread that I made for the ranch. I'm not sure if it was that?? Or if it was the coffee I had?? But all the sudden I was in so much pain. Then I started to get hot and sweaty, and knew I was going to pass out at any moment if I didn't lay down. I called Davey, could barley talk...said..."Something is wrong, so much pain, gonna pass out...come home please." I heard him say, "I'm coming." then I hung up and fell to my bed. I took some medicine, and laid there. Davey was home with in 2 minuets, (Thank God he works on the property). Poor guy, whenever I say I don't feel good he thinks it's something bad to do with the baby. He took care of me for a bit, then got the boys dressed and brought them to the assistant director's wife who is also my neighbor, she offered to watch them.
My husband has been such a trooper through these 3 months. I have been a crazy hormonal wreck, so sick a lot of the time, house is always a mess and behind on laundry. Yet he loves me.
Now I am resting, but I have to get up and get ready. I have a WIC appointment and really need to go.
I hope my comments is working?? I heard it wasn't the other day..
Love, The Curvy Housewife
I got very sick this morning though. I think it was my gallstones again. I have been watching my fat, but last night I had a little Tortellini and garlic bread that I made for the ranch. I'm not sure if it was that?? Or if it was the coffee I had?? But all the sudden I was in so much pain. Then I started to get hot and sweaty, and knew I was going to pass out at any moment if I didn't lay down. I called Davey, could barley talk...said..."Something is wrong, so much pain, gonna pass out...come home please." I heard him say, "I'm coming." then I hung up and fell to my bed. I took some medicine, and laid there. Davey was home with in 2 minuets, (Thank God he works on the property). Poor guy, whenever I say I don't feel good he thinks it's something bad to do with the baby. He took care of me for a bit, then got the boys dressed and brought them to the assistant director's wife who is also my neighbor, she offered to watch them.
My husband has been such a trooper through these 3 months. I have been a crazy hormonal wreck, so sick a lot of the time, house is always a mess and behind on laundry. Yet he loves me.
Now I am resting, but I have to get up and get ready. I have a WIC appointment and really need to go.
I hope my comments is working?? I heard it wasn't the other day..
Love, The Curvy Housewife
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